site-config: dedupe cross-host values, fix stale dark-reader urls, drop desktop 1g hugepages

new site-config.nix holds values previously duplicated across hosts:
  domain, old_domain, contact_email, timezone, binary_cache (url + pubkey),
  dns_servers, lan (cidr + gateway), hosts.{muffin,yarn} (ip/alias/ssh_host_key),
  ssh_keys.{laptop,desktop,ci_deploy}.

threaded through specialArgs on all three hosts + home-manager extraSpecialArgs +
homeConfigurations.primary + serverLib. service-configs.nix now takes
{ site_config } as a function arg and drops its https namespace; per-service
domains (gitea/matrix/ntfy/mollysocket/livekit/firefox-sync/grafana) are
derived from site_config.domain. ~15 service files and 6 vm tests migrated.

breakage fixes rolled in:
 - home/progs/zen/dark-reader.nix: 5 stale *.gardling.com entries in
   disabledFor rewritten to *.sigkill.computer (caddy 301s the old names so
   these never fired and the new sigkill urls were getting dark-reader applied)
 - modules/desktop-common.nix: drop unused hugepagesz=1G/hugepages=3
   kernelParams (no consumer on mreow or yarn; xmrig on muffin still reserves
   its own via services/monero/xmrig.nix)

verification: muffin toplevel is bit-identical to pre-refactor baseline.
mreow/yarn toplevels differ only in boot.json kernelParams + darkreader
storage.js (nix-diff verified). deployGuardTest and fail2banVaultwardenTest
(latter exercises site_config.domain via bitwarden.nix) pass.

modules/desktop-networkmanager.nix

@@ -1,4 +1,4 @@
-{ hostname, ... }:
+{ hostname, site_config, ... }:
 {
   # speed up boot times (by about three seconds)
   systemd.services.NetworkManager-wait-online.enable = false;
@@ -9,10 +9,7 @@
     networkmanager = {
       enable = true;
 
-      appendNameservers = [
-        "1.1.1.1"
-        "9.9.9.9"
-      ];
+      appendNameservers = site_config.dns_servers;
 
       wifi = {
         scanRandMacAddress = true;